Years before I trained through this part of the Presidio for a zombie run, which feels like a very specific early-2000s sentence. The Walking Dead was huge, zombies were apparently having their cultural moment, and someone decided the logical next step was to have actual humans run through a crazy zombie race while other actual humans dressed as zombies chased them! It was a blast.

I trained for it.

I finished it.

And, for the record, I survived.

Most people died.

Obviously, nobody actually died. You started the race with flags representing your lives, and the zombies tried to take them while you ran. I crossed the finish with mine, and I remember being disproportionately proud. There is something deeply Gen X about voluntarily paying money to be chased through the woods by zombies and considering it a recreational accomplishment!

So when I started researching the next plant for this Plant Medicine series and landed back here, near Inspiration Point, I thought I knew this landscape pretty well.

I didn’t know this story.

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The plant San Francisco thought was gone

Franciscan manzanita (Arctostaphylos franciscana) is native to San Francisco. It was last documented growing wild in the city in the 1940s and was subsequently considered extinct in the wild for decades. Then, in October 2009, biologist Daniel Gluesenkamp was driving through the Presidio when he noticed a manzanita growing in the median along Doyle Drive, in an area being cleared for construction. He went back for another look. Botanists were called. The identification was eventually confirmed.

There it was. A Franciscan manzanita. Growing in a highway median, of all places!

A plant people believed had disappeared from the wild had been hanging on in one of the least romantic places imaginable. (National Park Service)

I love this story for so many reasons, but particularly because Gluesenkamp saw it while driving. People who knew these plants had been through this area before. Restoration work had been happening in the Presidio for years. Yet somehow this plant remained unseen until one person looked closely enough to recognize it.

The plant couldn’t stay where it was. It was directly in the path of the Doyle Drive construction project, so an enormous conservation effort began. Crews dug around the plant, protected its root ball and surrounding soil, and ultimately moved it by crane to a protected location in the Presidio. Before moving it, scientists collected fruit, seeds and cuttings so the species could be propagated. Today, conservation efforts have resulted in multiple established populations of Franciscan manzanita. (The Presidio (San Francisco))

The original rescued plant remains protected at an undisclosed location near Inspiration Point, and I want to be very clear about that because this is not a scavenger hunt. We aren’t going looking for the endangered plant. We are going to walk through the landscape that holds its story.

That's where the medicine begins.

The Medicine of Returning

When I started this series with the California lilac, I wanted to see what happened when I stopped looking at a plant as something pretty and started learning how it actually lived. Its biology gave me the meditation. I want to continue doing that here.

Franciscan manzanita has a complicated relationship with its environment. It is associated with San Francisco’s rare serpentine landscapes, where the soil can be low in nutrients and contain metal concentrations that make growing difficult for many plants. Manzanitas in this ecosystem are also associated with disturbance and fire as part of their reproductive ecology. (National Park Service)

But I keep coming back to something simpler. Everyone thought it was gone. It wasn’t.

That became the medicine for this practice.

How many times do we decide something about ourselves is gone because we haven’t experienced it in a long time? Maybe it is strength. Creativity. Desire. Confidence. Curiosity. The ability to trust your body. The willingness to take a risk. The part of you that used to laugh more easily or wanted to go somewhere simply because you’d never been there.

Life changes, bodies change, relationships change, people leave, children grow up, careers take turns we didn’t expect, and sometimes we stop looking for pieces of ourselves because we’ve quietly concluded they belong to another time.

I’ve thought about this a lot over the past few years. We are so often encouraged to get ourselves back. Get your old body back. Get your energy back. Get back to normal. Get back to who you were before whatever happened happened.

I’m increasingly less interested in getting back. I’m much more interested in discovering what is still here. That’s different.

The Franciscan manzanita wasn’t waiting for San Francisco to become what it had once been. It was growing in the conditions that existed now. In this case, remarkably, that meant alongside a freeway.

There is something worth sitting with in that.

Come walk it with me

For this Plant Medicine practice, I want you to actually come to the Presidio if you can.

Start at Inspiration Point Overlook. Stand at the overlook for a moment before you put your headphones on and start the meditation. From there you can see Tennessee Hollow below, with the forest, native grasslands, historic buildings and the Bay beyond. The rare serpentine grasslands are part of what makes this particular corner of the Presidio so ecologically interesting. (The Presidio (San Francisco))

Then find the Ecology Trail. It begins just a few feet from the Inspiration Point plaza.

The entire trail is about 1.4 miles and moves through a surprising number of habitats for such a short walk: native grasslands and wildflowers, eucalyptus, redwoods and connections toward El Polín Spring and the Main Post. (The Presidio (San Francisco)) My meditation is only twenty minutes, so you don’t need to make reaching the end part of the assignment. Walk with me for twenty minutes and then keep going if you want.

And if you’re nowhere near San Francisco, you can still do the practice. Find a trail, a park, a neighborhood with trees, a beach path—somewhere you can walk safely without paying too much attention to navigation. The Franciscan manzanita becomes the story we carry rather than something you need to see.

But if you are here, I want you here.

Because that’s becoming an important part of what I’m trying to create with these practices.

A plant. A place. A practice.

Sober in San Francisco has never really been about removing alcohol from a trip and handing you a list of everything that’s left. I’m interested in what happens when we’re actually present enough to experience a place.

Sobriety gave me a very different relationship with attention. Meditation deepened it. And now I’m finding that learning about the plants growing around this city is changing it again.

I’ve probably walked this part of the Presidio hundreds of times. I hiked it with my son when he was little. I trained here while preparing to outrun zombies. I’ve walked these trails in completely different versions of my life.

That’s what I want these Plant Medicine walks to become. Each one will take us to a real place in San Francisco and introduce us to a plant that actually belongs to that landscape. We’ll learn enough about its biology and history to understand what we’re looking at, and then we’ll use that knowledge as the beginning of a meditation—not by assigning some arbitrary spiritual meaning to a flower, but by paying attention to what the plant actually does.

For Franciscan manzanita, the twenty-minute walking meditation is The Medicine of Returning.

As you walk, I’ll eventually ask you one question:

What is still alive in me that I stopped looking for?

You don’t need to answer it. In fact, I’d rather you didn’t try too hard.

Walk.

Breathe.

Look at the ground.

Look at what’s growing.

And consider the possibility that returning to yourself doesn’t necessarily mean going backward.

Sometimes it means looking again.

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Many of you know that I’ve spent a significant part of the last year navigating my own healing after my body collapsed. It’s been rough and has totally sucked; yep, I’m saying that out loud. No spiritual method can bypass what the body needs: rest, love, attention.

Yet, through this, I’ve learned an extraordinary amount during this time—some of it by immense research, some through the practitioners I’ve worked with, but most of it through living inside a body that suddenly required me to listen differently.

Over the last three months, I have seen more meaningful change in my body than in many of the months before, and when I was first diagnosed, I told my doctor there was no way I was going to be the norm; I would not be sitting around doing nothing for two years… I was going to hack my way to better! HA. That’s been a real joke. But two pieces have become increasingly important in that shift: somatic work and breath.

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Last night I taught a class that brought those pieces together, and afterward I realized: I want to teach this to more of you.

We worked with the breath, including practices that intentionally let carbon dioxide (CO₂) rise for short periods. James Nestor explores this in his book Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art. CO₂ isn’t simply a waste product that we need to get rid of. It plays an important role in respiratory physiology, and when we chronically overbreathe, we can blow off more CO₂ than our metabolism requires. Slowing the breath and working with comfortable breath holds can help us become more tolerant of the sensation of rising CO₂ and begin changing the way we breathe.

We also worked with fascia and the interstitium—the connective tissue and fluid-rich spaces that exist throughout the body. Instead of thinking about the body as a collection of separate muscles, organs and systems, I want you to start thinking about it as an interconnected environment. Breath, movement, pressure, sensation, and the nervous system are constantly communicating with one another.

This somatic piece has become particularly important to me. I spent a very long time trying to understand what was happening to my body intellectually. And yes, you know me—I want the science. I want to understand the mechanism. But I’ve also had to learn that understanding something and creating change in the body aren’t necessarily the same thing.

I’m thinking on Zoom and opening it up to all of you. We’ll do the work together and I’ll explain some of the science as we go. If you’d like to join, let me know; send me a DM. Easy Peasy.

In the meantime, I really do want you to read James Nestor’s Breath. Better yet, listen to the audiobook—Nestor narrates it himself and has a fantastic voice. It will change how you think about something you do roughly 20,000 times every day without much thought.

One more thing: I’ve also started putting up new Calm by Lane practices every week through Sober in San Francisco and The Sober Lens. These are practices you can return to on your own—meditation, breath, walking practices, and other ways of getting back into your body. If you’d like more regular practice with me, you can subscribe there, too.

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I’ve missed teaching my wider community and feeling like my body and mind are coming back into alignment. Maybe it’s time we practice together again; I hope so.

Stay curious,

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I’m rereading James Nestor’s Breath; it’s so good, and apparently that is all it takes to send me down another rabbit hole. I’ve been thinking so much about breathing lately—not complicated breathwork, not another technique to master, but the thing we do somewhere around 20,000 times a day without giving it much thought.

Last Wednesday, I began the meditation I was teaching with some intentional breathwork. We spent time with diaphragmatic breathing before moving into the actual meditation, and I watched my students and the room change. They settled more deeply into their bodies and seemed to be able to move into the practice with less effort. It reminded me how often I use the breath as an entry point, and how easy it is to underestimate what happens physiologically when we do.

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I’ve been thinking a lot about the things we say we’re going to do someday. The trips we keep bookmarked. The places we imagine ourselves standing. The experiences that live quietly on a bucket list while we wait for the right time, more money, fewer responsibilities, a different season of life, or some future version of ourselves who will somehow be more ready… Are we ever really ready?

I have one of those things. And I finally put it on the calendar.

Next spring, I’m going to walk the Portuguese Coastal Camino, from Porto, Portugal, to Santiago de Compostela in Spain. It’s roughly 170 miles along the coast of Portugal and into Galicia, and I’m giving myself almost four weeks to do it. I’ll spend a few days in Porto before I begin, then walk most days, take rest days when I need them, stay in small hotels and inns along the way, and have my luggage moved ahead while I carry only what I need for the day.

I’m not doing this because I suddenly decided I need to prove I can walk 170 miles. Quite the opposite.

May 2, 2027, will mark two years since my body collapsed and my life changed in ways I never anticipated. For a long time now, I've focused on what was directly in front of me: my health, my nervous system, my work, my family, and learning what my body could and couldn’t do. I've done a lot of listening. A lot of recalibrating. A lot of letting go of the idea that progress has to look a certain way.

Somewhere in all of that, I started thinking about the Camino.

Not as a finish line. Not as some dramatic declaration that everything is behind me. Life doesn’t work like that. I simply kept imagining myself walking beside the Atlantic, one town at a time, with nowhere I needed to be except the next place. Eventually I realized that if I kept waiting until I felt completely certain I could do it, I might never go. My husband thinks I’m nuts; I think… He plans trips very differently.

I booked the time in my life before I booked the trip.

I’m intentionally making the Camino longer than most itineraries. I don’t want to race across Portugal and Spain just to say I completed it. I want time to stop for coffee, notice where I am, talk to people, sit by the ocean, eat something wonderful, get lost occasionally, rest when I need to, and wake up the next morning and walk again. Most days will be somewhere around eight to eleven miles. On May 2, I want to be somewhere along the Portuguese coast doing exactly that: walking.

And strangely, planning this has made me think less about my bucket list and more about everyone else’s.

What’s still on yours?

Not the sensible thing. Not what you think you should want to do. What is the thing you keep thinking about? Maybe it’s walking the Camino. Maybe it’s learning Italian, seeing the Northern Lights, taking your mother somewhere she has always wanted to go, writing the book, swimming in the Mediterranean, going to Japan, learning to surf at 60, taking a month off, or finally going somewhere alone.

And then there’s the harder question: What are you waiting for? I’m genuinely asking.

Tell me one thing that is on your bucket list—the thing you keep saying you’ll do “one day.” I want to hear it. And if you’ve already done something that once felt impossibly big, tell me about that too. I have a feeling incredible stories are sitting in this little community.

I’ll share more as I plan this—the route, the training, what I’m learning, what I’m nervous about, and eventually what happens when my feet actually hit the Camino.

For now, I’ve done the most important part.

I gave someday a date.

With gratitude.

Lane

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This is a FREE 34-minute Nidra-inspired meditation that begins in the body and slowly moves into the landscape of California lilac, exploring what this remarkable native plant can teach us about belonging, restoration, and beginning again.

Well, while I was busy telling everyone else to notice things, I was walking past an entire world of plants I knew almost nothing about.

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I mean, I know roses. I know lavender. I can identify a California poppy without assistance. Beyond that, things start getting a little sketchy. I would see these incredible blue flowering shrubs around San Francisco, think, beautiful blue flowering shrub, and keep walking. Recently I started asking what these plants actually were, and that very simple question sent me somewhere I wasn’t expecting. I didn’t just want their names. I wanted to know what they did, how they survived here, whether people had used them medicinally, what happened underneath the soil, and why certain plants seemed perfectly designed for the places where they lived.

That is how I found myself learning about California lilac, or Ceanothus, and how this new series for The Sober Lens began.

The California lilac

California lilac isn’t actually a lilac. Ceanothus is a genus containing dozens of species, many of them native to California, and the one I am particularly interested in here is Ceanothus thyrsiflorus, commonly called blue blossom or coast blue blossom. It has clusters of tiny flowers that range from pale blue to a much deeper blue, and when it is blooming the number of flowers can make an entire section of the shrub look as though someone painted it.

This isn’t a plant I had to travel somewhere exotic to find. It is part of the landscape here. The National Park Service identifies the Presidio as the type locality for Ceanothus thyrsiflorus, meaning this place is associated with the plant’s original scientific description. It grows in coastal bluff scrub and typically flowers from March into July. Today you can find California lilac in native plantings around the Presidio, including Battery Bluff and Presidio Tunnel Tops.

Once I started researching Ceanothus, however, the flowers became almost the least interesting thing about it.

The Pomo traditionally used the fresh or dried flowers of Ceanothus thyrsiflorus as a soap. When the flowers were mixed with water and rubbed against the skin, they produced a fine lather that was used for washing the hands, face and body. The flowers were also incorporated into ceremonial dance wreaths. Other historical accounts of California Ceanothus species describe the bark and roots being used as an astringent and tonic. Those traditional uses belong to particular Indigenous peoples and particular species, so I don’t want to flatten all Ceanothus into one medicinal plant or pretend that traditional use is an invitation to self-treat with whatever shrub we find in the Presidio. What interests me is what the documented history tells us about our relationship with the plant. This beautiful thing people now put into landscapes as an ornamental shrub was also something people knew intimately and used.

Then there is what Ceanothus does for the land itself. Species in this genus form relationships around their roots with nitrogen-fixing microorganisms, which becomes especially important in depleted landscapes. Research after California fires has documented blue blossom emerging abundantly from dormant seed banks and contributing to the restoration of nitrogen in the recovering ecosystem. In other words, this is not simply a plant capable of surviving difficult conditions. Its presence can participate in repairing the conditions around it.

That was the part that got me.

What is the medicine of a plant?

I have been thinking about the word medicine differently as I work on this project. Medicine doesn’t have to mean swallowing something. A plant can have physical medicine because people have used some part of it therapeutically. It can have ecological medicine because of what it contributes to the environment around it. Then there is the emotional or spiritual medicine we discover by paying attention to how that plant lives.

I don’t want to make that last part up. There is enough wellness language floating around telling us that a particular flower magically represents abundance, feminine energy or whatever else someone decided to put on an Instagram graphic. That isn’t what I’m interested in doing. I want to begin with what we actually know about the plant and see what questions emerge from there.

With California lilac, I keep coming back to cleansing, restoration, belonging and renewal after disruption. The cleansing comes from its real history of use. Restoration comes from its ecological role. Belonging comes from the way this plant participates in its environment rather than simply occupying it. Renewal comes from something I find extraordinary about blue blossom: seeds can remain dormant in the soil, and conditions created by fire can stimulate them to germinate. After the Vision Fire at Point Reyes, the National Park Service documented dormant Ceanothus thyrsiflorus seeds responding to the fire and producing abundant new growth across the burned landscape, which is stunning.

Think about that for a minute. Something can be underground and quiet for a very long time without being gone, waiting for it’s moment. The landscape can change dramatically, and what comes next doesn’t have to look like what was there before.

We, humans, spend a lot of time trying to get back to center, especially with the invent of technology and now AI, that quietly robs our bodies and minds. We try getting back to the body we had, the energy we had, the person we were, the relationship we had with ourselves before something happened. Sometimes getting back isn’t available, and perhaps isn’t even the right goal. Sometimes the more interesting question is what is still alive underneath everything that changed and what conditions might allow it to emerge.

That is the medicine I found in California lilac.

So I’m making a meditation about it

This is where Calm by Lane comes in for you. I am creating a series of Nidra-inspired meditations based on flowers and plants, but each meditation will be built from the actual plant rather than using nature as pretty background scenery.

The California lilac practice is about belonging inside your own body, belonging in the life you have now and finding your way back to yourself after you have lost some sense of who you are. It is also about not waiting for someone else—or some future version of your circumstances—to give you permission to belong.

One idea I keep returning to in the meditation is that something can be dormant without being lost. I think our bodies understand this differently than our thinking minds do. We can spend years believing a part of ourselves has disappeared when perhaps it has simply gone quiet. I don’t want the meditation to tell you what that part is or insist that it needs to return. I hoping to support enough stillness for you to notice what happens when you're offered the possibility.

Then I want you to go find the plant

This is the part that makes the series belong here on The Sober Lens. I don’t only want you to listen to a meditation about California lilac. I want you to encounter California lilac in San Francisco.

Start by walking in the Presidio. Battery Bluff has extensive native plantings, including my new friend, the California lilac; look for blue blossoms in the larger Presidio landscape. If you catch it during its flowering season, roughly March through July, it is difficult to miss once you know what you’re looking for.

When you find it, get closer. What looks like a wall of blue from a distance is made from masses of very small flowers. Notice the insects around it and the ground underneath it. Think about what is happening below that ground that you cannot see. You don’t need to turn the experience into homework or understand the chemistry of nitrogen fixation. The point is simply to know a little more about what you’re looking at than you did before.

This is increasingly what I want Sober in San Francisco to offer. Yes, I want to tell you where to eat, where to walk, what strange little corner of the city is worth finding and what to do at night when drinking isn’t the center of the plan. But the larger idea has always been intentional living. Sobriety gave me a different relationship with attention, and meditation deepened it. When I am fully present somewhere, the place becomes much bigger than its list of attractions.

So I am going to keep looking. I want to find plants growing throughout San Francisco and understand their physical, ecological, emotional and spiritual medicine. Some will have documented medicinal histories and some won’t. Some may teach us something through the way they recover, protect themselves, cooperate, bloom, go dormant or adapt. If the lesson isn’t actually there, I’m not going to invent one just because I want another meditation.

California lilac is where I’m beginning because the plant gave me more than I expected when I finally learned its name. Its physical history speaks to cleansing, its ecology speaks to restoration, its relationship with this landscape speaks to belonging, and its response to disruption gives us a remarkable way to think about what it means to begin again.

It turns out I had been walking past the first meditation for years.

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I want to share more about these tiny moments that may slip by and go unnoticed.

I want to talk about travel and why some places stay with us long after we’ve left them. I want to talk about San Francisco—the city I have lived in, walked through, taught in, and watched change over the past four decades—and the places here that I think are still worth seeking out. The tiny bookstore. The bowl of matcha. The foggy walk that somehow rearranges your entire afternoon. The restaurant where sitting alone turns out to be completely different from being lonely. I want to talk about intentional living, food, culture, books, aging, beauty, relationships, solitude, cities and the small rituals that make a life feel like your own.

Because after nearly three decades of sobriety, I’ve realized that sobriety has given me much more than a life without alcohol. It's given me a way of seeing things that makes me pause.

I’m calling it The Sober Lens.

This isn’t just another newsletter about not drinking. Plenty of places are already having that conversation, and many of them are doing it beautifully.

This is something different. It’s about what becomes visible when we’re present enough to notice.

Sometimes I’ll write directly about sobriety. Sometimes I’ll write about the nervous system or the strange business of being human. Other times, I’ll take you somewhere in San Francisco that I think you should know about. I’ll share places I’ve traveled, things I’ve eaten, people I’ve met, books I’ve underlined, rituals I’ve kept, and moments that made me stop.

There will be recommendations, but I don’t want this to become another list of things to buy, restaurants to try, or places you have to see before you die. We have enough algorithms telling us where to go.

I’m more interested in why something is worth our attention.

That’s also the philosophy behind Sober in San Francisco, the intentional travel project I’ve been building around experiencing this extraordinary city differently. The Sober Lens will become the editorial side of that world—a place where I can wander farther, ask bigger questions and occasionally take us well beyond San Francisco.

You don’t have to be sober to be here.

You might be sober. Sober-curious. Drinking less. Taking a break. Or none of those things.

You might simply be wondering whether there is another way to move through the world besides faster.

I certainly am.

So this newsletter is changing.

Not dramatically. I’m still here. I’m still going to talk about the nervous system, presence and the practices that have shaped my life. I’m just making room for everything else I’ve been wanting to talk about.

Travel. San Francisco. Food. Culture. Intentional living. Mindfulness. Beautiful places. Unexpected discoveries. And those ridiculously small moments that shouldn’t matter nearly as much as they do.

Mostly, I want The Sober Lens to be a reason to look again.

At a city.

At a meal.

At another person.

At the life we’re already standing inside; this is huge!

Welcome to The Sober Lens. Thank you for reading this and sharing your time with me.

Cheers.

— Lane Kennedy

The Sober Lens | Sober in San Francisco

The bar was hosting a Prince-themed dance party. There was purple, dancing, cocktails, and a crowd that was mostly over 50. The party started at 7:30 p.m., which made me laugh because, honestly, that sounds about right. I am old enough to remember when going out at 10 p.m. was considered early, and I am now old enough to understand that being home by 10 p.m. can be one of the best decisions I make all night.

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The story got me thinking about Gen X because we are in a strange place. We were raised in a culture where drinking was woven into almost everything. We met people at bars, celebrated with drinks, drank after work, drank on vacation, drank because it was Friday and drank because it was Tuesday and somebody had a bottle of wine. Alcohol wasn’t always the event. It was simply part of the event, and for many of us, that distinction barely existed.

Now we are living in a completely different conversation about what it means to take care of ourselves. We are being told to protect our sleep, build muscle, manage stress, pay attention to metabolic health, think about cardiovascular health and start thinking seriously about longevity. Many of us are taking care of aging parents while raising children, helping adult children financially, managing careers and trying to figure out what the hell happened to our knees.

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That reaction surprised me because I had only recently spent so much time with her. Last year, as I was entering one of the most difficult periods of my life, I started watching Nashville. I wasn’t watching it because I needed another television show to fill the evenings. I watched it because, at the time, it helped me regulate my nervous system. There was something about the music, the predictability of the story, the characters and the familiar rhythm of the show that gave my brain somewhere to land when everything else felt like too much.

I ended up writing three pieces about Nashville, including a full review. Somewhere in the process, I developed this strange feeling that I knew Hayden Panettiere. I didn’t, of course. I knew her through Juliette Barnes, but something about the character felt remarkably familiar to me.

And there was a reason for that.

When I was first getting sober, I was in love with another alcoholic who was a musician. She was famous at the time and is still somewhat famous in her world, and that relationship was deeply intertwined with my early understanding of addiction, love, chaos, and the complicated life that can develop around someone who is drinking or using. I knew what it was like to love someone whose talent and charisma could coexist with tremendous pain. I knew what it was like to watch someone be both extraordinary and completely lost. I knew how easy it was to confuse the intensity of that kind of relationship with intimacy.

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So when I watched Juliette Barnes, I wasn’t simply watching a fictional country music star struggle with addiction. I recognized the world she was living in; I once lived it.

I recognized the musician. I recognized the chaos. I recognized the relationships. I recognized the way addiction can become woven into an entire identity until it is difficult to tell where the person ends and the illness begins.

I remember thinking there was no way Hayden could portray Juliette that accurately without some personal understanding of addiction. Her performance felt too close to reality.

It wasn’t just the drinking or the using. It was everything around it. It was the defensiveness when someone tried to help her, the certainty that she could handle things herself, and the way she could be desperate to be loved while simultaneously pushing away the people who loved her most. It was the shame underneath the bravado and the way she could walk into a room looking completely in control when you knew she was barely holding herself together.

I could see addiction in her. I could also see things I understood from my own life.

That is why her death has hit me differently than the death of a celebrity I didn’t know much about. I had just spent a significant amount of time watching her work. I had just spent a year writing about a character she brought to life while I was trying to find my own way through an incredibly difficult period. In a strange way, I had just gotten to know her, and now she is no longer on the planet.

That makes me sad. It also makes me look at those Nashville episodes differently.

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Because I now know that while I was watching Hayden portray Juliette, Hayden was living through many of the things that made that character feel so real. In her memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, Panettiere writes about postpartum depression in a brutal fashion, again one that I recognized on the show in her portrayal of Juliet, alcohol and drug addiction, trauma, domestic abuse, the loss of her brother Jansen, and the difficult process of trying to rebuild her life. She has spoken about how closely the fourth season of Nashville mirrored what was happening in her own life and how, at one point, she could no longer clearly separate herself from Juliette.

That changes something for me. I understand that Juliette may have been one of the places Hayden was trying to understand herself. I get that!

Perhaps that is why I recognized something in the performance before I knew the details of her life. Addiction has a language that people in recovery learn to recognize. It isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it is in the eyes. Sometimes it is in the defensiveness. Sometimes it is in the way a person talks themselves out of needing help. Sometimes it is in that particular combination of absolute confidence and complete desperation. It’s its own kind of language.

I have spoken it.

I have loved someone who spoke it.

I have spent the last nearly three decades learning how not to speak it anymore.

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That is what makes addiction so complicated to me. It isn’t simply about the substance. The substance becomes part of a much larger system of coping, avoidance, trauma, fear, loneliness, and survival. Eventually the illness can convince you that the thing you are using to survive is the thing you cannot possibly live without.

And that is where the real darkness begins.

Thinking about Hayden now, I keep coming back to that darkness. I don’t mean that I know what was happening inside her before she died. I don’t. I don’t want to create a story about her final days that I have no way of knowing is true. But I do know something about addiction, and I know something about what it’s like to lose your reference point for what a normal life is supposed to feel like. I know darkness.

That is the part of her story that I can’t stop thinking about.

There is so much help available. There are treatment centers, therapists, recovery communities, doctors, medications, assisted alternative treatments, meetings, sober living environments, and people who have walked through addiction and come out the other side. There are more resources now than there were when I got sober in 1996. Yet people still die.

This baffles me.

Not because I think people simply refuse to get help. I understand now that it is much more complicated than that. Addiction is an illness that can tell you that you are fine while your life is falling apart. It can tell you that you can handle it, that you don’t have a problem, that everyone else is overreacting and that tomorrow will be different. It can make the person who needs help the most believe that asking for help is unnecessary.

And then it isolates you.

That isolation is one of the things I wish more people understood about addiction. From the outside, it can look like someone has been offered every possible resource and simply refuses to take it. From the inside, the experience can be completely different. You can be surrounded by people and still feel profoundly alone. You can have people who love you begging you to get help and still believe that nobody really understands what is happening inside you.

You can even know exactly what recovery looks like and still lose your way.

That is something I understand differently now than I did when I first got sober.

I used to think the hardest part of recovery was stopping. It isn’t. Stopping is the beginning. The much bigger question is what happens when you have been walking without drinking or using for a very long time, and life changes underneath you.

Last year taught me that in a way I wasn’t expecting.

As I entered my own collapse, I was forced to confront what it means to continue walking without drinking or using when some of your old reference points for what a normal life looks like no longer exist. There were moments when I had to figure out how to keep moving without the certainty that I once had about where I was going. There is a particular kind of vulnerability in realizing that the life you thought you were going to live may not be the life you are actually going to live.

You still have to stay. You still have to find your way through.

Addiction is an illness that can tell you that you are fine while your life is falling apart.

Maybe that is why I connected so strongly to Nashville last year. I wasn’t watching from some safe distance, looking back at addiction as something that happened a long time ago. I was watching it while I tried to regulate myself through a period when my own life felt unfamiliar. I watched Juliette struggle with the very things I had spent decades learning to understand, and I watched Hayden bring that struggle to life in a way that felt almost unnervingly accurate.

Now she is gone.

I find myself thinking about how strange it is to feel grief for someone you never actually knew.

I don’t think I’m grieving Hayden in the way her family or friends are grieving her. That would be presumptuous. I’m grieving the strange loss that happens when someone whose work has entered your life suddenly disappears from it.

This makes me want to be more careful with the way I talk about addiction, especially after someone dies.

We have a tendency to flatten people once addiction becomes part of the story. Suddenly everything becomes about the drinking, the drugs, the relapse, the treatment, the tragedy. We forget that there was a whole person living inside all of it.

Hayden was a child actor who grew up in the public eye. She became an adult celebrity, a mother, an actress, and a woman who experienced postpartum depression, addiction, trauma, domestic abuse, and profound loss. She sought treatment. She talked openly about her struggles. She wrote a memoir because she wanted to tell her own story.

Her story was complicated because her life was complicated.

That matters.

What I want to remember is not the tragedy. I want to remember the woman I saw through Juliette Barnes: enormously talented, complicated, vulnerable, funny, difficult, wounded, searching for answers, and still trying to find her way back to herself.

That is what I recognize and what I will remember of Hayden Panettiere.

Because after all of these years sober, I know that recovery is not about becoming someone who never struggles again. It is about learning how to stay when life gets difficult, learning how to ask for help when your own mind tells you you don’t need it, and learning how to build a life that doesn’t require you to disappear from it.

That is the work.

And I think that is what Hayden was trying to do, too.

By Lane Kennedy

Stress management educator, meditation teacher, DNA wellness practitioner, and writer exploring recovery, resilience, nervous system regulation, and what it means to stay present for your own life.

Lane Kennedy has been sober since 1996. I writes about recovery, stress, biology, capacity, and the hard work of building a life you no longer need to escape. I also created Sober in San Francisco, a travel and editorial project exploring food, travel, culture, and the experience of being present without alcohol. You can find my work at lanekennedy.com and explore Sober in San Francisco at soberinsanfrancisco.com.

I wasn’t planning to write about .

In fact, I wasn’t planning to write about psychedelics at all.

But then I listened to Rich sit down with his wife, Julie, and talk openly about his recent iboga experience. He has also spoken candidly on the Dopey podcast about participating in professionally guided sessions involving psilocybin and MDMA. He wasn’t speaking like someone chasing an altered state. He was speaking like someone who had spent decades searching for peace and had reached another crossroads.

It made me stop. Not because I had an opinion. But because I am familiar with this experience, and because I had a deeper question.

I’ve known Rich for a very long time.

We both got sober in Los Angeles, and our paths crossed at the Log Cabin back in the late ’90s. I still remember the first time I saw him walk through the door. He wasn’t the Rich Roll the world knows today. There wasn’t a bestselling book. There wasn’t one of the biggest podcasts in health and wellness. There wasn’t an ultramarathon legend standing there.

He was just another alcoholic trying to stay alive.

He looked exhausted. He was sweating. He looked like so many of us looked in those early days. Broken yet hopeful and terrified. That’s how it always begins.

Over the years I’ve watched his life unfold from a distance. Every now and then we’d cross paths, and every time I found myself genuinely so happy for him. I’ve admired what he has built, but even more than that, I’ve admired his honesty.

One thing Rich has never done is pretend that sobriety solved everything.

He has spoken openly for years about depression, about never quite feeling like he was enough, about perfectionism, achievement, and the persistent feeling that there was still something unresolved beneath all the outward success. Recently, describing what led him to iboga, he talked about “the patterns that survived all of it”—the recursive patterns that remained despite therapy, men’s work, intellectual understanding, and decades of recovery.

This has stayed with me. Because I know it. Not literally. But spiritually. I’ve been sober for almost thirty years, and there are patterns so deeply embedded that nothing short of a miracle can change them in me; I get where he has been.

Recovery gave me a life I never thought possible. It gave me integrity when I had none. It gave me friendships that have lasted decades. It gave me purpose. It gave me my son. It gave me work that I genuinely love. It gave me a relationship with something much bigger than myself.

Recovery saved my life.

Which is why this conversation feels so complicated. For a long time, the definition of sobriety felt relatively straightforward. Don’t drink. Don’t use drugs. Go to meetings. Help another alcoholic. Tell the truth. Live the principles. Repeat. Then the world changed.

Today we have emerging research on psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy for treatment-resistant depression, post-traumatic stress disorder, addiction, and end-of-life anxiety. We have clinicians, neuroscientists, and psychiatrists studying medicines that, for decades, were dismissed outright. At the same time, long-standing recovery communities continue to uphold traditions that have helped millions of people stay sober. Those two realities now exist side by side, and for many people they create genuine tension. It’s brutal to watch how some members of the recovery community are so stringent, live with outdated models, and are closed off to new scientific discoveries.

It’s also worth saying plainly: iboga is not a casual undertaking. It carries real cardiac risk, and people have died from it in unsupervised or underground settings. Whatever else this conversation is about, it isn’t an endorsement to go find it without serious medical screening first.

I’m not interested in arguing. I’m only interested in genuinely understanding. Because my own life has changed dramatically over the last eighteen months. When my nervous system collapsed, it forced me to rethink almost everything I thought I understood about healing. For years I believed healing meant becoming stronger. Now I think healing often means becoming more honest.

There is a difference.

My nervous system has taught me that the body carries stories the mind cannot always explain. It has taught me that symptoms are sometimes invitations instead of failures. It has taught me that curiosity can be far more useful than certainty.

That’s why I found myself listening to Rich with no judgment (ten years ago I would have been in radical judgment). Not because I suddenly have all the answers. But because I have fewer. And strangely, that feels healthier. Recovery communities have always wrestled with difficult questions. Can someone take pain medication after surgery and still be sober? What about antidepressants? Ketamine administered in a medical setting? What about MDMA-assisted psychotherapy? What about iboga?

These aren’t hypothetical questions anymore. They’re here. And they deserve more than slogans.

What struck me most listening to Rich wasn’t that he had taken iboga.

It was that after all these years he was still willing to say, “I don’t have this figured out.”

That takes courage. I LOVE HIM more for this. Especially when millions of people have built an image of who you are, and you step outside of that narrative.

Maybe that’s the conversation we’re actually being invited into.

Not whether Rich Roll is sober, or whether one is sober who is medically seeking assistance, or trying to dig their way out of an emotional and spiritual black hole.

Because that’s between Rich (or the person seeking), his conscience, the people he trusts, and whatever higher power guides his (their) life.

The conversation is whether recovery itself is mature enough to ask new questions without abandoning the principles that have saved so many of us.

Can we remain deeply committed to sobriety while also remaining intellectually honest about emerging science? Can we be curious without becoming reckless? Can we honor tradition without refusing to learn?

I don’t know. And I’m surprisingly comfortable saying that.

Because after almost thirty years of recovery—and after the most difficult year of my life—I have become less interested in certainty and much more interested in healing.

Perhaps that’s what recovery has always been asking of us. Not to know everything. But to stay teachable.

So I’ll leave you with the question I’ve been carrying since I finished Rich’s conversation.

If the purpose of recovery has always been freedom—not simply abstinence, but freedom—how do we continue honoring the principles that saved our lives while remaining open to new ways of healing that science is only beginning to understand?

I don’t think there’s an easy answer. But I do think it’s a conversation worth having.

Thanks for reading.

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This was one of those articles. It explored what happens when Americans drink less, focusing on Louisville, Kentucky, where bourbon is woven into the city’s economy, history, and identity. It was a thoughtful piece. The reporter examined layoffs at Brown-Forman, the financial strain facing restaurants that have long relied on alcohol sales, the uncertainty surrounding neighborhood wine shops, and the concern that museums, orchestras, and other cultural institutions could lose an important source of philanthropic support if the spirits industry continues to contract. I finished reading it, closed my laptop, and thought, Interesting. Then I packed my suitcase.

The numbers behind that reporting are real, and they deserve to be named rather than gestured at. Brown-Forman cut 12% of its workforce and closed a Louisville cooperage that had run for eighty years. In Los Angeles, Angel City Brewery closed this spring after more than a decade, and its regulars mourned it the way people mourn an actual place — not an abstraction. Teddy Abrams, who conducts the Louisville Orchestra, said the assumption had always been that Brown-Forman’s giving would simply always be there. I don’t think any of that is small. Coopers and master distillers don’t retrain into wellness jobs by next Tuesday, and a city’s cultural institutions losing a funding source is a real institutional problem, not an abstraction I can wave off with a better industry to point to instead.

That afternoon I flew to Ashland, Oregon, where every few months I spend a week resetting my nervous system. Eighteen months ago, I never would have imagined scheduling my calendar around recovery. I scheduled around conferences, speaking engagements, clients, deadlines, and flights. Recovery was something I assumed would happen somewhere in the margins if I worked hard enough. Nervous system collapse has a way of correcting that illusion. Now these trips have become part of my healthcare. I go because my body needs them. I go because slowing down is no longer optional; it is part of how I stay well.

Ashland asks very little of me, and that’s one of the reasons I love it. I drink my tea slowly. I watch the baby deer wander through the neighborhood in the early morning. I sit on a bench and notice the wind moving through the trees or the blades of grass bending in different directions. Most days I don’t accomplish anything measurable, and that is precisely the point. My nervous system has spent enough years believing it always needed to produce, perform, achieve, or fix something. In Ashland, I practice something much more difficult. I practice allowing the day to unfold without asking it to become productive.

What surprised as I sat and watched the day pass was that I couldn’t stop thinking about the article.

It stayed with me while I watched the deer grazing in the evening and while I sat quietly with a book I wasn’t really reading because my mind kept returning to Louisville. There was a low-grade irritation sitting in my belly that I couldn’t quite explain. It wasn’t that I disagreed with the reporting. In fact, I thought it was balanced, well researched, and entirely fair. The irritation came from somewhere else. I had the distinct feeling that we were asking an important question, but perhaps not the most important one.

“Do you want me to write something about it?” I texted AB.

Her answer came back almost immediately. “Yes”

The article asks what happens when people stop drinking. It measures the economic consequences of declining alcohol sales and thoughtfully explores the communities that may be affected. Those are important questions, and they deserve serious reporting.

But I found myself wondering if we were measuring the wrong economy.

What if the more revealing question isn’t what people are giving up?

What if the more revealing question is what they are choosing instead?

As the week went on, I stopped thinking about Louisville and started thinking about San Francisco. More specifically, I started thinking about the last several years and how dramatically the culture around me has changed. Not overnight. Not because one report came out or one Surgeon General issued a warning. It has been quieter than that. It has happened one decision at a time, one conversation at a time, one person choosing something different without making a grand announcement.

Gallup’s most recent survey found that only 54% of American adults now drink at all — the lowest number they’ve recorded in the ninety years they’ve been asking the question. That’s not a niche behavior anymore. That’s most of the country, quietly, one decision at a time.

When I first got sober nearly three decades ago, not drinking often required an explanation. People assumed you were pregnant, on medication, or had a drinking problem. Saying no to a glass of wine usually invited another question. Today, I rarely see that happen. Restaurants have pages devoted to zero-proof cocktails. Hotels proudly feature alcohol-free options. Coffee shops are full before seven in the morning. Running clubs have become social clubs. Saturday mornings look different than they did when I first got sober, and I don’t think that’s accidental.

A glass of wine where I live can easily cost fourteen dollars.

Fourteen dollars.

That number stayed with me during my week in Ashland because fourteen dollars buys a lot of other things. It buys a beautiful bag of peaches at the farmers market. It buys admission to a museum, a journal you’ll keep for years, or a handful of fresh flowers that will sit on your kitchen table all week. It pays for coffee and a croissant with a friend. It buys a ferry ride across the bay or helps pay for a monthly gym membership. Fourteen dollars isn’t really about fourteen dollars. It’s about choice. Every dollar we spend tells a story about what we value, and increasingly I think people are telling a different story than they were twenty years ago.

The article I read focused, understandably, on what happens when those fourteen dollars are no longer spent at the bar. Restaurants feel it. Wine shops feel it. Distilleries feel it. Cities built around alcohol tourism feel it. Those consequences deserve our attention because they affect real people trying to make a living.

But money rarely disappears. It moves.

Economists have understood this for generations. Consumer spending shifts as culture shifts. When one industry contracts, another often grows in response. Looking at the numbers, I couldn’t help wondering if that is exactly what we’re witnessing. The global wellness economy is now valued in the trillions of dollars. Specialty coffee continues to grow. Boutique fitness has become its own industry. Outdoor recreation contributes hundreds of billions of dollars to the American economy each year. Wellness tourism is expanding rapidly as more people choose to spend their vacations hiking, cycling, walking ancient pilgrimage routes, learning to surf, or simply finding places where they can rest.

Wellness tourism alone is projected to grow from roughly $525 billion to more than $900 billion globally by the end of the decade. That’s not a subculture. That’s where a meaningful share of the fourteen dollars is actually landing.

I don’t think these trends are unrelated.

The same person who once spent Saturday afternoon at a winery may now be spending it on a trail. The couple who celebrated every anniversary with an expensive bottle of Cabernet may now book a cooking class instead. Someone who once planned vacations around breweries now plans them around national parks. A woman I know recently laughed as she told me that she had traded wine club memberships for airline tickets. “I realized,” she said, “I’d rather remember the trip than recover from it.”

There is another shift happening that few people could have predicted even five years ago. Physicians and researchers are now studying the effects of GLP-1 medications on alcohol consumption after thousands of patients reported that their desire to drink had diminished dramatically. These medications were developed to improve metabolic health, not to change drinking behavior, yet they appear to be influencing the brain’s reward pathways in ways scientists are only beginning to understand. Whether those findings ultimately reshape addiction medicine remains to be seen, but they have already captured the attention of investors and the alcohol industry because they represent something much larger than a pharmaceutical trend. They represent another way in which people’s relationship with alcohol is changing.

One study following more than 14,000 GLP-1 users found that 45% of those who used to drink weekly reported drinking less after starting the medication. Diageo has already reported double-digit declines in some of its biggest tequila brands, and at least one investment fund has walked away from its Diageo holdings entirely, citing GLP-1s by name as the reason.

At the same time, conversations about longevity have moved out of research laboratories and into everyday life. People are no longer asking only how long they will live. Increasingly, they are asking how well they want to live. Healthspan has entered the public vocabulary. Sleep has become aspirational. Strength training has become something people begin in their fifties and sixties instead of something they leave behind in college. Blood sugar, inflammation, recovery, and cognitive health have become dinner-table conversations in a way they simply were not a decade ago.

I don’t believe these are isolated trends. I think they are connected.

When a culture begins to value feeling well tomorrow as much as feeling good tonight, consumer behavior changes. Businesses change. Entire industries change. We often describe these shifts in economic terms, but underneath every market is a human decision. Millions of individual people wake up one morning and decide they want something different. Eventually those individual decisions become a cultural movement, and the economy quietly reorganizes itself around those new values.

That, more than declining bourbon sales, is the story I think we’re living through.

Toward the end of my trip, I realized this article had never really been about bourbon, Louisville, or even alcohol. Those were simply the entry points into a much larger conversation. What stayed with me wasn’t the economic data or the changing consumer habits. It was the realization that millions of people are quietly redefining what they want their lives to feel like.

For generations, we’ve been taught to invest in retirement accounts, real estate, careers, education, and businesses. We understand that small, consistent investments compound over time. Yet very few of us have been taught to invest in the one system that allows us to enjoy any of it: our nervous system.

Perhaps that’s what I’ve been witnessing over the past year. People aren’t simply giving something up. They’re investing somewhere else.

They’re investing in sleep instead of another drink. They’re investing in Saturday morning hikes instead of Saturday morning hangovers. They’re investing in meaningful travel, stronger relationships, better metabolic health, and experiences they will actually remember. Whether they realize it or not, they’re making deposits into something I have come to think of as nervous system capacity.

After my own nervous system collapsed, I stopped asking myself, “Can I get through today?” I began asking a much better question: “What decision today will help me feel more alive tomorrow?” That single question changed how I think about work, relationships, travel, recovery, food, movement, and yes, even my fun, tragic, bad habits (like popcorn and M&Ms)! It shifted my attention away from short-term gratification and toward long-term capacity.

Maybe that’s the conversation we should be having. Not whether an industry is shrinking. Not whether another industry is growing. But whether we are building lives that our bodies can actually sustain.

As our culture continues to evolve, I suspect we’ll keep finding new ways to gather, celebrate, connect, and create community. Human beings have always needed one another. Alcohol never owned that need. It simply occupied that space for a very long time. What we’re watching now isn’t the disappearance of connection. It’s the beginning of a different expression of it.

So I’ll leave you with the question that stayed with me throughout my week in Ashland:

If your calendar, your credit card statement, and your body all told the same story, what would they say you’re investing in?

If this question resonates with you, I’d love to invite you a little deeper into my work.

For nearly three decades, I’ve studied the intersection of stress, recovery, genetics, meditation, and nervous system regulation. One of the ways I bring those worlds together is through The Capacity Report, a personalized assessment that combines your DNA with an in-depth lifestyle questionnaire to help you better understand how your biology responds to stress and where you can begin building greater resilience. It isn’t another generic wellness quiz. It’s a practical roadmap designed around you.

You can learn more about The Capacity Report at https://lanekennedy.com/capacity.

And if this essay has you reconsidering your relationship with alcohol—or simply the way you want to experience the world—I hope you’ll also visit Sober in San Francisco. I created it because I believe travel can be more than checking places off a list. It can become a practice of paying attention, slowing down, and discovering what we often miss when we’re rushing through life.

You can explore that work at https://soberinsanfrancisco.com

.Thank you for spending a little time with me today. I don’t take your attention lightly, and I hope this essay gave you something worth carrying into tomorrow.

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