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When Someone You Love Shuts Down
I was twelve years old when a gunman came to the door.
It was the kind of morning that should have passed without memory. Ordinary sunlight was coming through the windows. A quiet house. The small details of the day had not yet been divided into before and after.
Then there was knocking. The sudden intrusion of a man and three others who did not belong in my house. The unmistakable shape of a gun in his hand.
Everything moved quickly and slowly at the same time. I remember being tied up. I remember being thrown onto a bed. I remember the strange stillness that enters a child’s body when it understands—without anyone explaining it—that resistance is not an option.
The body knows before the mind does.
Heart pounding. Muscles tight. Breath shallow. The nervous system preparing for something it cannot fully execute: fight, run, escape.
None of those things happened. The moment passed. Eventually, the man and his crew left. Life resumed.
But the body had already begun a process it did not get to finish.
At twelve years old, I didn’t have language for that. No one did. Trauma was something people talked about in hushed tones or dramatic circumstances. We didn’t talk about what the body was doing underneath the surface, quietly storing the unfinished energy of an event that overwhelmed the system.
So I moved on the way children do. School continued. Life continued.
The body kept the record.
