A Sober Lens From Sober In San Francisco

A Sober Lens From Sober In San Francisco

The Quiet Grief of Outgrowing a Version of Yourself

When your life changes before you’re ready

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Lane Kennedy
Mar 29, 2026
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Welcome to Unregulated to Regulated — my small corner of the internet where I write about rebuilding the nervous system, stress management, invisible illness, recovery, and learning how to live slowly in a culture addicted to speed.

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There was a version of me who could do everything, and I don’t say that with arrogance. It’s simply the truth of who I was for a long time. I worked hard, I traveled constantly, I taught classes, and I exercised almost every day. My body moved easily through the world, and I trusted it without question. If there was a mountain to hike, I was there. If there was a long row on the water, I was there. If there was a workout that pushed my heart rate high and left my muscles humming with effort, I was not only willing—I was eager.

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